If a guy significantly improves his women-skills, he may be labelled a pickup artist (PUA) or player. But not all skilled pickup artists are interested in one-night stands…

The term pick up artist has negative connotations. It brings to mind sleazy lounge lizards with too much jewelry and cologne, out to get the next conquest. That’s not how we at the Mystery Method see it. The pick up artist is really just the first 20 minutes or so of an interaction between a man and a woman in social/dating situation. Mystery Method is proud to teach all types of men how to be a pick up artist. We are proud to teach the skills and techniques to break through the ice and social convention and actually approach and get the attention of interest of a desirable woman, whether she is alone, with friends, or in a large mixed group. Whether she then becomes your friend, your girlfriend, or your lover is up to you, the pick up artist.

But with good PU skills a guy can meet and attract women from different backgrounds, different levels of education, and even different cultures and countries. A guy with good pickup skills has options and does not necessarily want to bed every woman he meets!

Building social proof helps reduce a player-like image, and may significantly help in getting approach invitations from girls…

Some players can be seen walking around the venue, eyeballing all the women and looking for a good one to approach. This behavior looks predatory, and is quite transparent to the people in the crowd. Similarly, some guys may be seen standing in a group, peering around at the field. If they don’t look like they are having a great time together, if they aren’t hanging out with girls, if they aren’t running a set …then they will start to lose social status. When one of them finally does open a set, he may discover that opening is more difficult in environments where he has negative social proof.

Whereas a venusian artist, rolling in with his wing, is not going to be looking around at the people in the crowd. Rather, he’s going to be talking to his wing, and it will appear as if they are two high-value guys having a great time together.

If he were looking around the venue, especially with a serious expression on his face, it would telegraph that he is looking for something more fun and of more value than the spot where he already is. But he isn’t. He believes that the most fun and valuable spot in the field is his own spot, his own reality - and he is congruent with that.

Women are searching for a man whose reality is more fun and more valuable than their own. You must be congruent with the value that you have to offer, and it must be apparent to the room. Follow the three-second rule, and you will be in set much more often, resulting in higher social proof

It’s interesting that whenever you have more social proof, you will get noticeably more occurrences of proximity. Girls will also give you other approach invitations, such as making eve contact. Remember that it’s not necessary (nor is it necessarily desirable) to wait around for AI (approach invitations,) because with practice, a venusian artist can consistently open sets even without AI.

Social proof is an integral part of the Mystery Method!

Before learning about pick-up and seduction, I used to be so serious about finding the ‘right’ girl and finding ‘true’ love - I failed miserably! Since then, I’ve realised meeting and attracting women should be fun and socially rewarding – it’s not chore! It’s a challenge – it’s a game with, potentially, many outcomes. As Mystery says…

Practicing the Game is not unlike the movie Groundhog Day, where Bill Murray re-lives the same day over and over again for what seems like years. Each day he tries to pick up the same girl, and her responses are different as he tries new tactics from day to day. Over time his skills improve and he gets closer and closer to his goal.

If the right switches are flipped, she will feel attraction and she won’t really have a choice about this. Similarly, if the wrong switches are flipped, she will lose attraction and she won’t have a choice about that either. She may even feel disappointed that it happened.

This means that her responses have absolutely nothing to do with who you are as a person. It’s not about who you are — it’s just a response generated by your tactic, your delivery, and other factors. It’s just a game.