When learning the Game, some AFCs (average frustrated chumps) think seduction is part of pick-up, when it’s not! Seduction is a separate but related to pick-up - it’s not part of the pick-up process. It’s important to realize seduction follows on from PU. Because of this, many guys make major mistakes during the seduction stage.
According to Mystery, don’t seduce to early and don’t seduce to late. Also, plan where you intend to seduce – don’t leave it to luck, because you may end up very disappointed.
Read about the 7-hour Rule : on average it takes about 7 hours from meet to sex with a girl. This is not an exact figure but based on significant field experience.
Seduction to early: Don’t escalate beyond kissing until you have successfully completed the attraction and comfort stages of the M3 model. This will usually take at least 3 hours (there are exceptions, of course, especially with alcohol). Our experience is that most women’s resistance to physical intimacy starts to disappear after she has spent 3 hours with a man (this can be over more than one meeting) and usually disappears completely after 6 hours.
Seduction to late: If you spend more than 10 hours with a woman without beginning physical intimacy, you may have already lost your chances to seduce her. She may have grown so comfortable and used to your presence in a non-physical way that the introduction of intimacy may seem unnatural and weird to her. Ever have a woman tell you “let’s just be friends” when you’ve finally screwed up your courage to make a move? That’s probably what happened. If you wait too long to seduce her, you become her girlfriend, not her lover.
The wrong place for seduction: Yes, you can turn a woman as soon as you meet her. We use seduction all the time to show our students. But it’s self-defeating if you want to build a relationship with her. Say you meet a woman in a nightclub, seduce her and you get hot and heavy in a corner, with hands going where they shouldn’t. Well, you can’t finish the job in a club, can you? (well, you can, but that shouldn’t be your basic strategy). Her friends will be highly unlikely to let her leave with you, and she won’t want to feel “easy” in front of them. So you get her phone number and call her later. Well, when you call her, she’s no longer feeling sexy from being all dressed up with a few drinks in a club dancing with good looking men. She might be changing her cat litter for all the control you have over it. And all she remembers about you is the seduction and sexual behavior you two shared, so she knows that’s what you’re after.
At first, expect to make many silly mistake, like rushing into it or waiting to long and she begins to wonder why you haven’t tried it on with her. With time and experience, you’ll start to identify the key moments when to begin the seduction process.
Don’t worry about early mistakes – we’ve all been there! But learn from them! After quite a few pick-ups, you’ll start to get a feel for when she’s ready to be seduced.
